Thoughts on Dating Websites…..

There are a huge variety of dating sites out there, they seem to cater for any kind of person you may fancy. There are the main stream ones like Plenty Of Fish, and e-harmony, then somewhat less mainstream ones, these include ‘sex sites’. It is through one of these (primarily aimed at married people) that I met T.  As I have said in earlier posts though, we were looking for company of the opposite sex but it developed in to something more. I’m not going to talk about him today though.

It seems different people have very differing views on how these sites work. I have a very good single female friend who is just over 40 and she has tried most of the well known dating sites over the last couple of years. She hasn’t had much luck (she is incredibly picky) but that has led her to think that men have it so easy and can have their pick of women. On the other hand I have a male friend who tends to use the sex sites more, and in his experience and the extensive research he has done, the women vastly outweigh the men and so the women get to have their pick of the men.

In my limited experience men do seem to be out for one thing only no matter what site they’re using.  It does send out mixed messages as I’m sure there are men out there looking for a genuine new relationship and not just a one night stand, but they get lumped in with all the guys looking for a one night stand.  And on the other side of the coin there are women out there who are looking for nothing more than sex, and then can’t understand why men won’t give them more.

All of these sites are becoming more and more commonplace and less stigma is attached to using them, but people need to be much more honest about what they’re looking for so real matches and new relationships can be formed.  And me?  If T and I do call it a day what will I do?  I would really like to think that I could meet someone in real life….


4 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. amildmanneredman
    Mar 19, 2013 @ 19:00:09

    I think you’re quite right about finding relationships in the real world, if that’s possible.
    It’s probably necessary to look at a bigger pool of potential partners though. It’s always been the same, I met my wife through a newspaper lonely hearts column all those years ago. A mainstream dating site is probably the best bet these days.
    I’d certainly avoid sex sites as a potential place to find a partner.


    • josiec19
      Mar 19, 2013 @ 19:39:06

      I wasn’t suggesting sex sites as somewhere to find a potential long term partner, thats just what happened to me. I think mainstream dating sites are the way to go, but they don’t work for everyone as my friend has found out.


  2. happenstance
    Mar 19, 2013 @ 19:22:17

    Interesting stuff!


    • josiec19
      Mar 19, 2013 @ 19:40:28

      Thanks, my thoughts are probably not very well written, but the disparity in the views from males and females was something I wanted to address.


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