Damn Weather

So I’m due to ride  my bike from Cambridge to Southend on Saturday in aid of the British Heart Foundation, but the weather is threatening to stop it. It’s 75 miles and in potentially freezing conditions with rain and snow forecast it won’t be much fun. I am very much a tortoise rather than a hare when riding and I was predicting a 7-8 hour ride on a good day, let alone into a 25 mph wind combined with rain. Other more experienced riders are dropping out all over the place so I’m wondering if it really is worth it now….

I just have to keep an eye on the official websites for updates, but if it isn’t on, I’m looking at a weekend on my own, as my daughter is going to her dads tomorrow evening due to the stupidly early start on Saturday of meeting the coach at 5.45am!

Fingers crossed that spring decides to put in an unexpected appearance eh?

Thoughts on Dating Websites…..

There are a huge variety of dating sites out there, they seem to cater for any kind of person you may fancy. There are the main stream ones like Plenty Of Fish, Match.com and e-harmony, then somewhat less mainstream ones, these include ‘sex sites’. It is through one of these (primarily aimed at married people) that I met T.  As I have said in earlier posts though, we were looking for company of the opposite sex but it developed in to something more. I’m not going to talk about him today though.

It seems different people have very differing views on how these sites work. I have a very good single female friend who is just over 40 and she has tried most of the well known dating sites over the last couple of years. She hasn’t had much luck (she is incredibly picky) but that has led her to think that men have it so easy and can have their pick of women. On the other hand I have a male friend who tends to use the sex sites more, and in his experience and the extensive research he has done, the women vastly outweigh the men and so the women get to have their pick of the men.

In my limited experience men do seem to be out for one thing only no matter what site they’re using.  It does send out mixed messages as I’m sure there are men out there looking for a genuine new relationship and not just a one night stand, but they get lumped in with all the guys looking for a one night stand.  And on the other side of the coin there are women out there who are looking for nothing more than sex, and then can’t understand why men won’t give them more.

All of these sites are becoming more and more commonplace and less stigma is attached to using them, but people need to be much more honest about what they’re looking for so real matches and new relationships can be formed.  And me?  If T and I do call it a day what will I do?  I would really like to think that I could meet someone in real life….

Could this be more interesting?

I really think I need to look into making my blog  little more interesting, perhaps with pictures and web links.  The trouble is, this blog is mostly anonymous and most of the links I would post would not only give away where I live but also what I do.  I’m going to have to think about that a bit more.  In the meantime I will try to add some pictures  when I find relevant ones.  All feedback and comments are most welcome.

To a certain extent I find writing my thoughts a good way of letting out all the things I can’t in other ways.  My daughter has even taken to asking if I’ve written my blog that day. 

It’s been a good week all in all, work was challenging but fun, and that’s the way I like it.  It’s certainly never boring that is for sure.  The patchwork quilt I’m making for my daughter is coming along lovely now and I’m hoping to have it finished this weekend so I will post a picture when it is completed.

I may even have broken through a barrier with my on/off lover…….

Oh but I haven’t told you the funniest thing that happened, so M is my single parent friend and she is on and off POF (Plenty of Fish) the dating site and she because she wants to show me the guys she’s chatting to I set up an account, purely for this purpose.  Now yesterday I was at a bit of a loose end so I thought I’d have a look on it, I hadn’t received any messages which wasn’t a surprise as I have no photo on there, but I had been ‘viewed’ buy four guys……one of whom just happens to be my ex-husband……….

Bloody Cars

Ok, so last week I was very proud of myself for rememebering to get my car MOT’d in time.  Two days later my car started behaving a little oddly, and has continued to do so all week.  Knowing I’m driving 100 miles on Sunday, and back Tuesday, I thought I’d better get it checked out.  To took it to the lovely men at a garage I’ve used before to have a look.  I was fairly sure it was the clutch, but was told it could only be the spark plugs, but neither are things I could check.  Oil and water – no problem, anything else….forget it!

Handed the key over and sat down to wait….30 minutes later the verdict arrived….it was the clutch.  The real damage was the cost though £450 – worst case scenario he said….So off I trotted to work, in the office today, but that’s another story.  Finished work, had some lunch, pottered around town and inevitably ended up at my friend M’s house.  Cup of tea and a chat, and the phone call came…..it’s serious…..oil is in the clutch, needs a part that won’t be available till tomorrow…and the cost is now £500…..BLOODY HELL

I just don’t have that kind of money, but I do need my car, my dad’s advice was: is it worth fixing?  well I can’t afford another so unless he was going to buy me one, I just need to borrow the money to get it fixed.  This has also left me up the creek without the proverbial paddle tomorrow…So much thought and head scratching means taxi’s….more bloody money!!!

It’s a time’s like this when I wished I’d found a rental place closer to my daughters school….

Ho Hum…..

Homework/Single Life

Now my daughter is at secondary school we made a deal that she would do all her homework on her own unles she was really really stuck.  Mostly this has worked well, she’s had some interesting work to do and I’m more than happy to help out, and on the odd occasion I have been known to stick my nose in even when it wasn’t wanted or needed!

But her father bought her a netbook for Christmas, which is a godsend as it means I don’t have to relinquish my laptop for endless hours of research……and youtube downloads!  So of course it doesn’t work with my printer….can I work out why? No, I blooming can’t!  I follow the instructions, read every silly little box on the screen and still can’t get the damn thing to work.  Found the easiest way is for her to e-mail me her homework so I can print it from my laptop….not the idea at all!  So I’m going to have to grin and bear it at the weekend when I’ll have to ask her father why I can’t add my printer to my daughters netbook……grrrrr doesn’t even begin to describe how I feel.

I’m really begining to get the hang of this looking after myself lark though, I booked my car in for it’s MOT a week early (which means I remembered when it was due) and managed somehow to sweet talk the guy in the garage to sorting out the dodgy lights on my dashboard and topping up my brake fluid for no extra cost!!!  Yay me!!!!!!!!